You’re going to get a bunch of answers to this which will contradict each other. The only central tenets are that the stag is not a cuck, as he can be seen to be in the hotwife fetish . The third party dude is still referred to as a bull. Other than that, there are different play and relationship styles all over the map and the shape of the relationship and play style is going to vary widely among stag/vixen couples. Most stag and vixen couples express powerful feminist principles and the husbands feel their wives have become much more confident, undeniably sexier, and independent as a result of having sex with other men. As for the man, it makes him feel powerful and successful in that he has a sexy wife other men could kill for.

I had only been on US soil for a few hours and in that short time I had sipped cocktails in a sophisticated rooftop lounge, danced to live music in a cosmopolitan bar and experienced my first ever BBC back at my hotel. We have always felt like the stag/vixen dynamic was one where they BOTH like watching the other one have sex with other people. A Cuck gets off on the humiliation aspect of his wife being with other men and depending on the dynamic may get off on being humiliated by those men (Bulls, boyfriends, etc.) in addition to the humiliation from his hotwife.

Sadly enough, there are lots of couples who go through this side of swinging. Lots of stags and vixens would still consider it cheating if their partner had sexual contact with someone else without discussing it first. Also, stags and vixens doesn’t preclude the man being involved. As well as watching he might eventually join in with his partner and another man rather than enjoying being excluded. This time we are joined by our delightful friends Secret Stag and Secret Vixen. We talk about getting started in the swinging and Hotwife lifestyles (since it’s a New Year and all that jazz).

I am a freelance writer with more than five years of experience. I have written blog posts, articles, product reviews, and e-books. For some couples, the husband may see his wife as a sexual object, he could take pleasure in degrading and humiliating her by letting her have sex with other men. Such husbands get off treating their wives like trash and controlling them like property and in such a case the woman is not enjoying the practice, she’s simply doing it out of coercion.

Several weeks in fact passed before we were able to arrange a second meeting and once more, it was arranged in secret without my knowledge. My January blues which had well and truly sunk in following the Christmas period, influencersgonewilf were about to be deliciously lifted. Who insisted on being open and free to do as she pleased. It was really hard to sit there and listen to this sociopath talk about herself like she was gods gift to mankind.

If sharing your partner with a third party is what rocks your boat then, by all means, go for it but you and your partner should agree on the rules and set boundaries you both are comfortable with. Explicit consent should be given by all parties involved and no one should be coerced or feel compelled to participate. This is not the kind of activity you indulge in just to please your partner, you both must genuinely share in this fantasy or it could end up being catastrophic.

Just a moment while we sign you in to your Goodreads account. We are not asking to have our choices to be validated in the book – we made our own free choice. It is our intention to have a web site with mediators and counsellors with an open forum for people to express their views on this subject. There will also be a validated STAG & VIXEN personals to assist others in moving relationships forward. The real live steps to becoming a Stag & Vixen – our perfect Relationship. My whirlwind adventure in the ‘Big Apple’ had well and truly begun and already provided me with many memories that I would be unlikely to ever forget.

In Stag and Vixen circles, this is known as “reclaiming” and the focus of the couple returning back to each. The stag gets a thrill from watching his vixen have sex with another man. Another scenario is that the Vixen has sex with a Bull outside of the couple’s shared abode. To see what your friends thought of this book,please sign up. Goodreads helps you keep track of books you want to read.

My ‘Bigger Bull,’ being closer in proximity, was fast becoming more than an occasional acquaintance which enabled me to grow in confidence with him and therefore spontaneity. Up until this moment, it was always my pleasure that was the driving force of our encounters but seeing as Christmas was just around the corner, I was feeling very giving. It was time for me to act out one of his ultimate fantasies. For as long as I can remember, I have always wanted to go to the ‘Big Apple,’ particularly around Christmas, to experience the many delights that it has to offer. I never imagined that those delights would come in so many different shapes and sizes.

This shows that there’s a deep-seated desire for voyeurism in our society today. Judging from the search history of most college-age and older guys, men have a hidden fantasy of watching their partners have sex with someone else, whether they admit it or not. In the widest sense, a hotwife is a wife that has sexual relations with men outside of her marriage with the knowledge of her husband. These lifestyle marriages tend to focus on the wife and her extramarital relations, often meaning that the husband is faithful to his hotwife, not having any relations outside of the marriage. This is more common in a cuck/hotwife dynamic than in a stag/vixen relationship. In today’s liberal sexual climate it has become very easy for people to put into practice what they could never have even thought of a decade ago.